Boasting and the pride attached to it can hurt relationships. The Bible says, in Proverbs, that “Pride goeth before a fall and a haughty spirit before destruction.” There is a difference between confidence and pride just as there is a difference between boasting and sharing information. Its much in the attitude with which it is shared.
Pride is, without watering it down any, putting yourself in the place of God. When we lack humility, we essentially live in the way we wish to live because we know best. We are unteachable and boastful. This is why pride goes before a fall. The plans for life are written by God. No matter how much we know, The Lord knows infinitely more. He is the first and the last, the beginning and the end. When we live life pridefully we say that we put our trust in ourselves, not in him. God is a gentleman who has given us free will. He will respect that free will and let us make our own decisions. In doing so, and not listening to God, we are setting ourselves up for failure, and falling.
Boasting is not simply the sharing of information. It is not simply saying “today I received a good review at work.” It is the same information, presented in a prideful way with an end goal of getting the other person to appreciate how awesome the speaker is. “look at me, aint I grand” type of stuff. It is, in relationships, easy to handle once in a while but if boasting is a normal occurrence, it causes the hearer to start having to feign interest.(which is really dishonesty is it not?)
There are two reasons I have seen for boasting:
On one hand, I have seen people who are just way too full of themselves and want the world to see themselves the way that they, themselves do.
On the other hand, there are those who feel insignificant or inadequate and feel they have to prove to others that they are not. These are the individuals I have seen the most repetitive boasting from.
In both circumstances, the focus is on how we appear to others. If we would stop focusing on that, and focus on God instead, people will just see who we really are. That wouldn’t be so bad. If God is working on your inside, it will show on the outside too. People are observant. Sometimes it may feel like you are not seen, but if you focus on love from our heavenly father that validates who we are and our very existence, the validation that comes from society will not matter so much.